A spinster has never been married, right? Ok thats me ! I like the word, I figure if I own it , it wont be so negative. I think of the word finster when I think of spinster, like "finster baby, come back here you naughty baby", a scene from bugs bunny.
Do you know any spinsters ? Most likely your answer would be yes, me (the blogger ). Think about how many people do you know that are not married .
Then break it down -
never married ?
never married and straight ?
never married and not crazy/drug addict ?
never married over , 30, 40, dare I say 50 ?
that would leave me and my uncle jimmy.
If you know any one else let me know. If you are divorced you don't count. My divorced friends think they get a pass in cause they are single now. Come on , I did not get a big party thrown for me , with a gown and a hall and a shower, and gifts, gifts and gifts . So the spinster is exclusive to never married. Sorry friends but we can hang out later and pick up .
Do you ever wonder why ? I admit I do. When I see an online posting of a man never married, I wonder "whats wrong with him"
So do they think, "whats wrong with her '?
Is there something wrong ?
Talk about it .
OK by your definition of spinster, yes, I know two others, both smart, attractive, nice women. Wait, no, make that three. I could probably think of more if I think about it. Wait! Four! OK. so I think you are quite unique, my friend, but in that category, not so maybe these days. Not one is a mother, btw.
ReplyDeleteKaren M. is 46, straight, gorgeous, smart, funny, owns her own business...never married - happy.
ReplyDeleteMelinda C. is 47, straight, gorgeous, smart, funny, great job...never married - happy.
Marriage and parenthood is not necessary for a full happy life. Forget about it and just have fun and love whomever you want with reckless abandon. And if the feeling moves you, have a baby! Worse case scenario, the kid only has one screwed up parent instead of two! But whatever you do - do it now. Tick, tick, tick. Stop thinking so much and start doing. (but don't stop writing - I love reading your writing) :) Love ya Nance!! :)
P.S. I don't think you'd be a screwed up parent, I'm just saying "worst case scenario...". Most parents screw up some how or another anyway. Everyone is just doing what they know how to do - there is no right or wrong - it just IS WHAT IT IS!
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